After reading a post by Joe Mazza (@JoeMazza) called #10Assumptions I had as a kid, I felt compelled to come up with my own #10Assumptions. I was compelled because Joe actually emailed me the link to the blog and asked that I consider my own assumptions. So here goes.
#1. Money can buy happiness. It doesn't. It just buys things.
#2. Everyone wants what's best for everyone else. It's not true. Some want what's only best for themselves.
#3. My family was like everyone else's. It's not true. Every family is different, and that's a good thing.
#4. The only good basketball officials are male. My sister proved me wrong over and over again.
#5. Coaches had to yell to get players and teams to be successful. My high school track coach proved that wrong with his constant positivity.
#6. The only happy couples are a boy and a girl. My good friend Tony, and his friend Felix, proved me wrong.
#7. I could only be friends with people I knew face to face. Twitter and voxer have proved me wrong.
#8. People that smile at you like you. That's not always the case. Sometimes they are laughing at you and don't like you at all.
#9. My grandparents would always be there. They aren't "there" now, and I should have done so much more to connect with them.
#10. Your best friend in grade school will always be your best friend. That's not true. Sometimes you move away. Sometimes they find a new best friend. Sometimes you find a new best friend. My best friend is my wife and I didn't know her in grade school.
What would you add to my #10Assumptions?
Thursday, May 7, 2015
The first reason goes all the way back to 4th grade. That's long ago enough that many of you reading this probably weren't even alive. The year was 1973. I was in a classroom in Louisville, KY, in the heat of a spelling bee. Spelling always came easy to me but I think it was just because I could memorize well. In all of the words of the quote to the left, only one has two spellings (not flower vs. flour). It is judgement. Or judgment. The teacher said the word and I spelled it- J-U-D-G-E-M-E-N-T. Success, or so I thought, but I was informed I had misspelled the word. I didn't agree with her assessment and went right to the dictionary for proof. And I found it. There are two acceptable spellings for judgement but she would have nothing to do with it. To this day, I spell judgement with the "e" that my teacher told me was incorrect. So now on to the real reason the quote caught my eye.
We have the awesome power every day to look at a situation and make our own determination- is it a flower or a weed. The voice mail light on your phone- a flower or a weed. The most recent email in your inbox- a flower or a weed. The disagreement with a friend or family member- a flower or a weed. This quote reminds me of the glass half full argument. It is a judgement call. And those of you who know me and are still reading, you know I'm a glass half full kind of guy. It takes just as much energy to be positive as it does to be negative. It's a judgement call. So why not choose the positive and make the judgement that the situation you are dealing with is a flower. It sure makes it more beautiful.